Why You Don’t Need to Wait for Your Husband’s Approval

My husband and I are both missionaries.  We met whilst on the field in East Asia.  That was in 2004.  He had been there a couple of years already and me -newly arrived.  We got married a few years later and were raising our 2 kids there until God called us to the US last […]

3 Takeaways from Love and War by John and Stasi Eldredge

Love & War is one of our favorite marriage books.  It might be the favorite, or at least among the top 3.  We read quite a few before (and during) the first stages of our marriage.  Some I would never recommend because I feel they are too fear-based: things-you-need-to-do-or-you’ll-lose-your-spouse type of advice.  That’s not really my style, […]

Grieving the Man My Husband is Not

My husband is a good man. But he is not a perfect man. And he is not everything I originally dreamed of and hoped for in a man. He is more -in every sense of that word.  He is more than what I would have known to ask for, and he is more than what I would […]

Home is Where Your Mom Is: Heaven

Some say, “Home is where your heart is.”  But I have come to know since September of 2013 that home is actually wherever your mother resides.  And that is why now, even more than before, Heaven is my home. My mother was a professional homemaker. Not the fancy, delicate kind. Just the good, solid, comfortable, inviting […]

Three Overlooked (but Essential) Qualities to Look for in a Spouse

The qualities that I hoped for in a partner at age 18 and what I actually got are fairly different.  And I am extremely grateful to God that they are.  (You can read some of what I thought was essential here.)  My husband is amazing, and the qualities that he daily demonstrates to me and our […]

The One Thing that Really Matters to God

I often feel like correcting people. Some people eat dessert before dinner. They relax when they should be working. They look busy when it’s time to take a break. They drink coffee right before bedtime and run the TV on a ridiculous noise level. And they don’t shut off the lights when they leave the room! There are a […]

How to Be a Proverbs 31 Woman if You Don’t Like Homemaking

Recently, I’ve journeyed stumbled into the world of blogging!  Within this world, I’ve been introduced to what is known as a blog party!  A blog party (or link-up) is basically an online place where lots of bloggers come together to link up their latest or featured posts.  It’s a way to get your voice out […]

Giving Honor Where Honor is Un-due

Honor: it’s a topic that I’ve been pondering as of late.  Maybe it’s because I spent the last 10 years of my life in Asia, where honor is a value that is worked out daily in human interactions.  Or maybe it’s because the presidential elections are nearing (though they are still months away!)  Or maybe it’s because […]

The Holidays and Grief

“For everything there is a season…a time to grieve and a time to dance.”  Ecclesiastes 3. There is a time for everything. Every culture has appropriate times to express both grief and joy. But what if you find yourself in the embrace of grief during what’s meant to be a festive season? How do allow yourself […]

What Turkeys Taught Me about Exclusive Church Groups

During this present furlough, we have been staying with my father on his 10 acres just outside of my hometown in Colorado. In the spring, there are usually 2 herds of wild turkeys that descend upon his field and stay, ironically, until just before Thanksgiving. The other day I saw one of the female turkeys […]